It’s natural for siblings to fight while playing together. But if it continues, then it becomes an unhealthy habit. Is it possible to get them to get along so they can play calmly and peacefully? In fact it can.
With a few simple steps, you can make your children more comfortable and less likely to fight. Check out the following!
- Starting from parents
Often, children fight because their parents are unfair in dividing their attention.
According to psychologist at Macquarie University, Prof. Julie Fitness, research shows the main source of sibling rivalry that makes children do not get along is the attention of their parents.
If parents always defend only one child, or favor only one child, the other children will feel unnoticed.
Therefore, look again at what is the source of their quarrel. Is it because you are looking for attention?
If so, parents should look again at how to treat children. It’s not too late to fix this. Fair parents will make children feel loved completely.
- Make rules early on
The thing that most often happens when children fight is fighting over toys. In fact, the toys that they fight for are also not necessarily attractive to them.
If the older brother is more than 3 years old, Mama can make rules. Anyone who wants to hold someone else’s toy must ask permission.
When the older brother is playing with his toys and is about to be snatched by his sister, Mama’s job is to avoid that from happening. Mama can attract sister’s attention with other toys.
If any toy is common property, whoever holds it first has the right to play it. Others can wait their turn if they want to play it too.
For example, if the opposite happens, the older brother can be taught to ask his sister for permission first. This way, they don’t fight each other and snatch toys. Children can also get along better by asking permission before picking up toys.
- Always praise the child’s kindness
Children will always be happy when praised, especially if praised by their parents. When the older brother is seen hugging or stroking his sister affectionately, do not hesitate to praise his behavior.
That way the little one becomes aware that his behavior is good and will continue to be repeated.
Likewise when the younger brother looks so fascinated by his brother. Tell how the sister looks so dear to the brother. That way, the brother’s affection can slowly grow to the younger brother.
- Avoid scolding children in front of other children
It’s not a good thing to scold a child in front of other people. If Mama scolds one child in front of other children, then she will feel inferior and shut herself off.
Not to mention if his sister is defended, he will feel annoyed with his sister. As a result, he doesn’t want to play together because he’s upset and even worse, a grudge can arise in his brother’s heart.
If one of them is wrong, take him to a quiet place where there is only Mama and the Little One. It’s good to talk to them when they are no longer emotional so that Mama’s words can be absorbed more into the child’s mind.
- Cultivate feelings for each other
Selfish children usually do not understand the concept of tolerance. When other people want to play with their toys, what is on their mind is to keep them in their hands.
When brothers and sisters are taught the concepts of loving, sharing, and tolerance, they can more easily avoid conflict.
Initially, parents still have to accommodate everything, because children have to learn by practice about the concept.
If the concept has been developed, both the brother and sister can more easily avoid conflict and can share better.
The main key of a child who gets along is a sense of love and fairness from his parents.